6 Baby Showers Create Sisterly Feud, as Woman Refuses to Continue Buying Gifts for Entitled Pregnant Sister: 'They can just wear hand-me-downs'

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Oct 9, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Having one's first child is an exciting and exulting time in a woman's life. The introduction to motherhood, the anticipation of newfound joy and love in your offspring, and the warmth of family will give any new mother that special glow. Now, most people in Western countries have around 2 children on average. When someone is on their 6th child, when does it come time to put an end to this facade of baby showers? The whole idea is to give gifts that the woman doesn't already have for her baby, but at 6, there have to be hand-me-downs. 

Now onto the Reddit thread. The original poster (OP) is a woman who wants children of her own, yet is spending a fortune on various gifts for her sister's children. By the 6th one, she puts her foot down, and tells her sister there won't be anymore gifts. 

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 13 hr. ago LittlexLilyRose AITAH for refusing to buy my sister a baby shower gift for her 6th baby?
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  • 02
    So, my sister recently sent me a link to her baby registry, and I was kind of surprised (maybe even a little appalled). This is her 6th baby, and she just had a girl last year who just turned 1. So, I'm confused why she needs all these things again, especially since this baby is also a girl.
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  • 03
    I've never liked buying new baby clothes because they outgrow them so fast, and I don't see the point in spending $40 on a onesie a baby will wear once. In my opinion, babies don't care if something is secondhand, so why not reuse what you already have?
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  • 04
    To make matters worse, my husband and I are in our 20s and currently childless because we don't feel financially ready for kids yet, although we really want them. Meanwhile, my sister and her husband keep having more kids, and every time we're expected to show up with gifts for each of them-Christmas,
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  • 05
    birthdays, dance recitals, you name it. And if we don't, they give us grief, not realizing how much pressure it puts on us and other family members.
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  • 06
    When I told her I wouldn't be buying her a baby shower gift this time, she got upset. I said I'd still go to the shower to celebrate, but I didn't feel the need to buy her a gift since she should already have everything. She argued that each baby should be treated the same, and if I gave her a gift for the first, I should for all of them. She even
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  • 07
    said I wouldn't understand because I don't have kids yet. Now, neither of us has apologized, and we haven't talked since the argument. So, AITAH for refusing to buy her a baby shower gift?
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  • 08
    Saltywitha Twist • 12h ago. NTA. NO ONE NEEDS SIX BABY SHOWERS!!! The entitlement and audacity is off the charts! She should have more than enough baby things by now for a small army!
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  • 09
    mutualbuttsqu... • 12h ago. NTA. Tbh having a baby shower after that many kids is just a shameless gift grab.
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    Beautiful_Swee... • 12h ago • This is another one of the things that entitled people (my opinion) have demanded. In my day you had a baby shower for the first kid but not any other ones unless you had another one like 10 years later and never expected another kid.
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  • 11
    Your sister knew she was going to keep popping out kids so she should have saved everything already and doesn't need anything else except diapers maybe, but thats on the parents to buy if they choose to keep popping out babies. No one owes them anything, including birthday and xmas
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  • 12
    presents, your NTA and don't feel a bit guilty. Tell sis if she can't afford to raise her own kids then she needs to stop breeding.
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    • ngkp 13h ago For a 6th baby, a large pack of diapers is about as thoughtful as you can expect from anyone. Buy her some diapers and put a bow on the box.
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    NextApplicatio... • 12h ago. Instead of buying presents individually, you should just get them a family present, i.e., a family pass to the zoo Edit: food vouchers, veggie seeds
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    Crafty_Special_... • 13h ago The only thing I would offer to buy is diapers. Nta
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  • 16
    Huge_Mistake_... • 12h ago • NTA - My SIL has 9 kids 14 down to 1 (same father, all single births). Thankfully we do not live close to them because her version of "parenting" is much different than ours.
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    Her kids have been screaming in the next room and she's just sitting at the table, until someone says "are you going to make sure everyone is ok?" (At the time they were the only ones with kids)
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  • 18
    I remember when my MIL told me that my SIL's church told her they wouldn't be throwing her baby showers for her 5th kid or any future children. My MIL understood, but she said my SIL was surprised. (I just chuckled to myself)
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  • 19
    No one in my in-law family has been exactly thrilled for her since after the 5th kid. Kudos to you for buying presents for so long. I told my wife we weren't buying presents for the kids about 6 years ago. We would get them nice thoughtful gifts and their parents would give
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  • 20
    us each a used VHS tape.....while I don't expect gift giving to always be even, the disparity was too much. And that was before we had kids.
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  • 21
    Again NTA. I'm not sure why people expect baby multiple baby showers. Maybe two if the second is a different gender or there is a "surprise" baby and they have gotten rid of everything.
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